Let me just start out by saying, I’m a little more than perturbed, so…if you’re not up for a rant, you better stop reading now!
I’m sure some of you will be calling me a hypocrite and reminding me of my post yesterday about being merciful. Well, let me tell you…I am being merciful! If I felt the freedom to say what I would like to say to some folks, I’d let them have it with both barrels…right between the eyes!
I’m talking about folks that always have something to whine and complain about! Everything offends them! If you say something to them…they are hurt and mad. If you don’t get involved, and don’t say anything to them…then they are angry about that as well.
These self-righteous, never-do-anything-wrong, perfect folks can’t see past the end of their noses! They come to you with their problems, and want to be treated with kid-gloves. They just want you to listen… not give advice or pass judgement.
However, they never ask how you are doing-because they think you have maturity in the Lord, therefore, in their eyes…you never have any problems! Wrong!
But just let you not measure up to their standards…and you will get an ear-full of how awful you were to them, and how mistreated they are by your lack of concern for their dilemma.
They forget that you possibly have more commitments than they. They go to a 9-5 Job, come home to an empty house and have no one to be responsible for but themselves. They can sit down in their easy chair and fall asleep in front of the T.V. They have no husband, no children, no one they home school. They don’t have to cook or clean unless they feel like it. They only have their own laundry to do…not mountains of it to face almost on a daily basis. They can leave the dinner dishes in the sink for a week if they want…
But then there are some of us ladies out there that DO have husbands. We DO have children, and we DO home school. Our husbands like to find a clean house when they return from work, have dinner ready, laundry done, and kids acting with respect.
Now…I’m not saying that these men should expect anything less. We as Christian women realize we are to model the Proverbs 31 women; and for most of us, that is acceptable. But it is far from easy! Our day starts the moment our feet hit the floor, and doesn’t stop until we are in bed; and even then… we are “on call” should something occur in the middle of the night that needs our attention…like mopping up vomit from our sick children…
Some of these folks don’t have a clue as to what being exhausted is! And…a lot of times, they much younger than I am!
At times, these “friends” or neighbors, come and tell you all their problems. You tell them that you’ll be sure to pray for them…but, that doesn’t seem to be enough. When you fail to go beyond your promise, they call you from your open patio door and climb down your throat because you didn’t go and check in on them, take them dinner, or some other such nonsense! Am I mad right now? You bet your boots I am!
I think this is so hard for me to swallow, because as a child, I had to deal with this attitude even then. My dad was a preacher, and as a preacher’s kid, I was expected to be the example…the role model. If the other church kids were into stuff they had no business being into, my brother and I got the blame for it…and half the time, we weren’t even in on it.
So now, here I am at 65, and short on patience for this kind of thinking. Here’s the deal…Everyone is responsible to God for themselves. When I tell folks I will pray for them…I DO! If I would have said I would take a meal over, or check in on them…I would have done that as well.
I guess what I’m trying to say is this…Don’t expect more from someone else unless you are willing to do the same for them! Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Think about what they are responsible for. And truly…that isn’t YOU.
If, on the other hand, you have promised to do something for someone, as in pray, take meals, visit, etc. then you should keep your word and fulfill it.
The “giver” should do so gladly…and the “receiver” should be grateful-however small the gift, it may be all that someone can give!
If this isn’t you…then ignore me. But…if the shoe fits…